Mastering The Energy of Love
Day 3: Boundaries
We all need healthy boundaries.
One of the kindest things you can do for yourself is to design boundaries of your own. Letting yourself say no. Letting yourself stand in your truth without giving your power away. Walking away from a no win situation. All healthy boundaries.
First, I want to touch a little bit on responsibility. We are often taught to be responsible for other people. Their feelings, their thoughts, their perception of us. But since we have no control over any of those things (no matter what), it seems silly to continue to extend ourselves in such a way that makes us responsible for other people. In fact, sometimes we take away other people's ability to figure themselves out by catering to their expectations and needs. As in, they rely on us to make them happy and therefore are robbed of the power of doing that for themselves. So understand that the only person on this planet you're actually responsible for (not including minors) is you.
We erect these when we feel our physical sovereignty is suffering. We are often taught that sacrificing for others is a sign of a good person. But you cannot give from an empty cup. We are learning more and more that fulfillment comes from within us and overflows into the world and people around us. One of the most loving things you can do for yourself is to set up physical boundaries.
How do you know you need one?
Chances are your energy will speak loud and clear for you. Feeling exhausted? Feeling less than enthused about doing something or going somewhere? Observe your reaction to being asked for something or being asked to do something. If it isn't a hell yes, it's a hell no.
Erecting A Physical Boundary
You can erect a healthy boundary by saying no in any way you see fit. Yes, sometimes these boundaries come with compromise, and sometimes you'll feel the need to explain, but more often than not you can just say no. It doesn't matter what it is that you're needing to make a decision about, you can say no. Visiting, doing a favor, meeting an expectation.
You may feel guilty at first, or even shame, since they sometimes go hand in hand, but ultimately you will remember that you aren't responsible for how other's feel and you need to take care of you. And, that's a good enough reason. No one else will do it for you.
Now this will be more for those of you are sensitive to the energy of others, empathic or otherwise. You may unknowingly absorb or be affected by other people and what ever energy they are carrying within them. This may even happen while you are sleeping, or happen with people or environments you live in.
How do you know you need one?
Again, your energy will tell you. You may be moody for no reason, you may feel physical discomfort in your body, you may feel exhausted or tired for no reason. Sapped of energy.
Erecting An Energetic Boundary
There are many ways this can be done and it's going to be important for you to find one that works for you. I recommend taking some of the suggestions and tweaking them to make them unique to you!
You can imagine something around you like a ring of fire, a cocoon, a barrier that only allows higher vibrational energy in and out.
You can imagine your egg shaped auric field around you being healed and sealed
You can set the intention to only allow high vibrational energy into your being and anything else be released with love and compassion or transmuted
You can carry crystals on you
You can set up a crystal grid of protection
You can put crystals in corners or power points in your home
You can ask your soul guidance team to keep the energy around you clear
If it's a person, you can ask your higher self to talk to their higher self
No matter how you decide to go about things, setting boundaries will help you keep your energetic channels clear so you experience more of what you do want and less of what you don't.
Can you think of a time when you had difficulty saying no or setting a healthy boundary with someone?
How did it make you feel in the end?
Can you think of some ways that you can create healthy boundaries that will allow you to feel ok with it?
Can you think of times when you may have been affected by situational energy or someone else's energy?
Homework: Can you come up with ways that you can set healthy boundaries?